One of the major goals expressed by the “good guy” Calvary Chapel Pastors over at PhoenixPreacher.net, here and elsewhere has been a concern for those “hurt” by Calvary Chapel Senior Pastors (CCSP’s) and the CC System. One of the major obstacles that often makes their participation another hurt rather than a help is their unwillingness to publicly state what is true, while doling out advice and pats on the back and stating over and over that they all aren’t the same and not to broad brush the whole Calvary Chapel Group.
The dynamic is this: You spill your guts out everywhere, gory details and all…and bleed all over the place. Your hurts and the hurts of so many many others is real and quantifiable and there is a mountain of testimony/evidence that a large majority of intellectually honest people would agree there is a serious Problem and injustice. A Calvary Chapel “good guy” Pastor tells you they feel bad for you and they offer up a book for you to read and assure you that they aren’t all the same and that they don’t do that at their Calvary Chapel.
You point out that a big part of the Problem is Systemic and the way the Structure is set up by Chuck Smith and CC Leadership…and that the pattern is the same or similar in so many other examples. The CCGGP repeats the mantra that he’s different, they aren’t all the same, all Systems are bad, CC does much much more good than bad and don’t broad brush the CC Movement.
Then comes the Chuck Smith worship.
You watch CCGGP after CCGGP talk about how wonderful Chuck Smith is. How much “integrity” he has and how much God has used him in so many lives. Meanwhile Chuck Smith has lied to your face, used his immense power to malign you from the Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa Pulpit, lied about him calling you and reaching out to you as if his goal was to really help…when the truth is you found a way to call him and he only met with you after you lobbied him for an hour and discussed “some” of the very sensitive issues you were aware of regarding his personal issues and Calvary Chapel’s current (at the time) legal situation. Chuck Smith goes on to lie and state that he has “no responsibility, no control, no authority” etc etc in the Calvary Chapel Movement and that all CC’s are 100% independent and he doesn’t make decisions that effect them directly, etc. Smith says this in a Radio Interview here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4yE6p1WgNM from the CCCM Pulpit here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6ydHm_lwKs and in the “meeting” to your face with Dave Rolph, Janet Carter (attorney) and your brother as witnesses. You realize Chuck Smith lies, often.
There comes a point where the inability of the CCGGP’s to publicly acknowledge some basic facts about Chuck Smith and the Bob Grenier situation is offensive and doesn’t really “help” anyone get over anything…it adds fuel to the fire.
If help in “healing” is the goal, I hope CCGGP’s will rethink their approach. Patting the abused and wronged on the back and telling them all will be well…without publicly acknowledging basic facts (and there is ample evidence to establish the facts) is simply not “helping”.
You can’t help holocaust victims by denying the holocaust. You can’t help black people by denying slavery existed and was wrong. You can’t help a rape victim by denying she was raped and that you don’t really know if her abuser in fact raped her or not. You can’t help a battered wife by questioning her abuse (when there is more than ample testimony and eyewitnesses and even a confession to a specific instance). And, you can’t help someone by denying that the Leader who has the power to make a right judgment and bring some accountability has lied and mishandled his responsibility.
Start with examining the facts and making a right judgment and publicly stating your take. Use your name. Take a stand for what is right, in public, not hiding behind the scenes and playing the CC political game. That would go a long long way to healing and to building a positive relationship.