Pastor Bob Grenier: Calvary Chapel Pastor of 30+ years. Author of “A Common Miracle” (file this mostly in the “fiction” section…or more accurately in the “omission” section…he left an awful lot out of his story “post-saved” and “post-CC Pastor”). Bob was a former drug dealer, drug smuggler and illicit drug user. He got “saved” and ended up at the Shiloh Commune in Oregon, where he met my beautiful mother. He and John Higgins (and some others) fought over my mom’s affection…and lucky us (sarc)…Bob won. He was a very recent convert and while watching a Bible study at Shiloh, said, “I can do that”…and his “career” was born…just like that. Fast-forward just a bit and Bob is the Dove-toting pastor of CC Eugene, Oregon. Very quickly, he “heard from God”…and decided to up and leave CC Eugene…I’ve got some theories of why he received such an abrupt “calling” to leave a brand new house and steady position for Visalia (to basically start over from zero)…but we’ll see if anyone ever comes forward. Bob met with Chuck Smith and told him he wanted to get out of Oregon…Chuck named some places…and Bob chose Visalia. We up and moved to Visalia during the heat of summer. Bob started CC Visalia out of a small apartment with literally about three families. Ironically, George Bryson of CC Vista, took over for Bob at CC Eugene. Bob was a jerk from day one. The first instance of Child Abuse happened when I was 5-years-old…not long after he married my mom in Oregon. As CC Visalia grew in numbers…Bob’s power grew…and so did his temper and his pride and his ego. The stories of his abuse and corruption over the many years will be told in very much detail on these pages. I have a mountain of personal testimony…and a mountain of testimony from former long-time staff, pastors and lay-people…and a group of family members. Some other factors for consideration…Bob has no formal education, he is a Vietnam Vet and has experienced “night terrors” as witnessed by me and other family members, was abused as a child, and has a violent temper. Bob was a heavy drug user “pre-saved” and struggled with “pill addiction” post-saved. The allegations being brought against him are: Child Abuse, Spousal Abuse, Financial Abuse/Corruption, Spiritual Abuse (including cult-like counseling)…among other allegations.
Gayle Grenier: My beautiful mom. She is the victim of Spousal Abuse and a reluctant witness to Child Abuse. She is either intentionally lying to protect her lifestyle and position as “Mrs. Pastor’s Wife”…or she is in denial. It is difficult for me to resolve. There is a version of “our” story out there that requires factual correction. Someone associated with the family or a friend of Bob’s camp stated on another forum that my mom has a “spine of steel” or something to that effect. They re-wrote history and stated that my mom had left my biological father after it came to her attention that he had taken up with another woman…my step-mom of many years. Unfortunately, that version doesn’t square with my Grandma Ruth’s story (God rest her soul), my biological father’s story, my mom’s brother’s story or the story of several other aunts and uncles from my dad’s side of the family. My biological father left my mom…it was only after he left that my mom moved us to Oregon. She puts up the “tough woman” facade…but inside she is walked on by men…both my biological father and the monumental controlling a-hole “Pastor Bob”. My mom has turned her back on her own children. She was complicit in our intense physical abuse. She was complicit in her abuse. She abused herself (verbally) telling my brother Paul she “hates” him and wishes he wasn’t born and doesn’t have him as a son anymore. What kind of mother says those things to their child? Not a sane one, or a good one or a Godly one. Is my mom a victim? Yes, I believe so…I blame most of her condition on Bob’s terrible abusive leadership in our home over the many years and the cult-like practices he’s employed for decades. Does my mom still bear responsibility? Yes, it is hard for me to accept this…but yes, she does. It is a painful reality for me. Not so much for others close to me and my other brothers.
Robert: My little bro…the baby of the family. Robert is 11 years younger than me. I helped raise the kid from when he was a baby. He was abused…not nearly as severely as Geoff or me…but he was abused. Most of the abuse happened when Robert was older and I was out of the home…Paul witnessed it and has shared the many accounts with me. One of the fruits of the abuse was manifested, IMO, when Robert had a stint at the Visalia Rescue Mission…and later when Robert was suicidal and was admitted to Cyprus Mental Health Facility on Akers Road in Visalia. Right after Robert was admitted, Bob and my mom took off for a vacation to Whistler, Canada. Paul stayed and cared for Robert…he took him cigarettes, fast food and candy daily…while Bob and my mom were living it up on their get-away. Robert, IMO, is only the “golden boy” now…because he is the Last Mohican…the only brother that provides cover for Bob and his abusiveness. When Bob’s sin wasn’t being confronted…Bob had no problem sending Robert to the Visalia Rescue Mission…and had no problem leaving for Canada on vacation…while Robert was in a Mental Facility contemplating suicide. Bob has been a terrible influence on Robert, IMO. Robert has made threats to several people in the past and I hope and pray he doesn’t repeat his father’s abusive and violent behavior. Robert has also made a couple of false allegations toward me and toward Paul. Robert is the sole witness of these allegations…one involves me “hitting my wife”…which is false. He claims a “neighbor” made the allegation…yet no neighbor has come forward…and my wife is upset and shocked at the false allegation. I have owned sin that I am guilty of…I am innocent on this one. I do not “beat my wife”…if I had, my wife would have had me thrown in jail…and her dad would have probably shot me before I got there. He has made an allegation toward Paul, which I believe is false. The timing was after we went public with Bob’s Child Abuse…no mention of the allegation was made while Robert was in the Mental Health Facility telling people all of the other issues that he believed brought him to that desperate point in his life. No corroboration, no evidence, just Robert.
Paul: My brother, Bob’s full son, who is 10 years younger than me. I helped raise Paul, much like Robert. Paul is a graduate from Fresno State University. He is basically a paralegal and will be entering Law School this fall. Paul is homosexual…an excuse Bob uses, IMO, to deflect attention away from Bob’s abusiveness…and a tactic to “poison the well” with regards to Paul’s damning testimony about many issues. Paul was physically abused, witnessed me, Geoff and Robert being abused…and witnessed Bob on top of my mother, with both hands on her throat, choking her. When Paul was inside “the circle of trust”…he ran around with my mom and Bob quite often…he was the beneficiary of much of the church’s money in the form of personal items from cash from the CC envelope on many many trips to SoCal and many trips around the country and even trips around the world. Paul took pills with my parents. He witnessed Bob “stoned on pills” (as others have). He heard much of their back-biting and lying…he watched Bob spin board members and out-and-out lie to them. Bob had no problem with Paul’s homosexuality…we all knew about it early on…until Paul took a stand against Bob’s abusiveness within our family. Then all of the sudden…Paul is a homosexual to be shunned, ignored and disbelieved. That is how Bob rolls. Paul has reported the abuse to Visalia Police Department and has been interviewed by Detective Bill Diltz. Paul has been through much counseling and has struggled with the effects of the abuse, much like I have.
Geoff: He is my brother. We have the same dad. Geoff was mercilessly abused growing up…to the point that a weaker individual probably wouldn’t have survived the intense physical and emotional torture. Geoff is one tough guy…and a survivor. He was beaten head to toe with the branch of a mulberry tree, he was locked in a small closet, kicked by Bob while he was writhing on the floor of our home in pain because his appendix was going to burst…and Bob thought he was “faking it”. Geoff was punched in the face, hit in the face with an open hand, made to eat cigarettes until he threw up, kicked out of Bob’s old VW bug on highway 99 just south of Fresno, in the dark of night…after Bob had abused him in a public store…and then hit him wildly while Geoff was cowering in the back seat of the car while Bob was speeding down the highway. Geoff was hit with paddles and other objects leaving purple bruises on his butt, back of legs and back. There are many other instances…and incessant lecturing, screaming, yelling, pushing, grabbing and threatening. At 16-years-old, Bob punched Geoff in the face, knocking him to the ground. Geoff stood up and defended himself. Bob kicked him out of the house…made CCV elder Glick Callahan drive Geoff to the airport and shipped him off to his biological father back east. It was devastating…to our whole family. I was personally told I could not, under any circumstance, communicate with my brother. That would be a loyalty issue. Bob’s “temper” problem was all Geoff’s fault…or that’s how Bob framed it. Geoff was now outside “the circle of trust”…my mom was not allowed to speak to him, either. Somehow, though…Bob continued to be physically and verbally abusive AFTER Geoff was gone…so it couldn’t have been “Geoff’s fault”. Geoff ended up at my Uncle’s…my mom’s brother…not long after going back east. While at my Uncles, Bob visited and my Aunt witnessed Bob striking Geoff in the face several times with an open hand and yelling at him and grabbing him violently. Both my Aunt and Uncle were told by Geoff about many of the abuses that occurred in our home. Geoff went on to have a very successful D-1 College Football career…and was even signed as a free agent and played briefly in the NFL, then NFL Europe and eventually Arena Football before an injury stopped his career. To date, Geoff has a very successful career as a C-level executive for a large Asset Based Transportation/Trucking company in SoCal and Tennessee. A half a year ago, Geoff had a long conversation with Gary Ruff of Calvary Chapel Foothills where he and Gary recounted Gary’s witnessing Bob pushing Geoff into a hotel hallway wall and smacking him in the face repeatedly and then dragging Geoff off to a hotel room and the screaming and crying that ensued. Gary recounted how he and Geoff spoke in Gary’s hotel room at length about what Gary witnessed first-hand…and Geoff shared some of the situation at home with Gary at that time. Gary approached my mom about the incident he witnessed, and my mom said, “it happened all the time”. Nothing was reported, Bob wasn’t confronted. This was 1985 and much abuse occurred after that opportunity to put a stop to it…in fact, some of the worst of the abuse occurred after that date. In 1995, Bob “made his peace with Geoff” and apologized for “losing his temper”…this was when Geoff was on the verge of signing with the New York Giants in the NFL. IMO, Bob minimized the abuse…and framed it as his “temper”…and apologized for being a “bad father”…without taking responsibility for Child Abuse…and not addressing specifics…and not apologizing or addressing these issues with me or with Paul…and then Bob continued to abuse Paul after the so-called “apology”…Paul was physically abused until 1997…and was verbally abused and bullied as recently as over 6 years ago, while he was still in the home. Geoff was extremely gracious and accepted what was a non-apology apology, IMO. Later, when Geoff’s football career was over, and I and Paul confronted Bob over continuing abusiveness within the family…Geoff was asked to lie about the abuse. The question was put to Geoff, “we didn’t commit any Child Abuse…and those things in Alex’s ‘letter’ weren’t true…were they Geoff?” Geoff said, “Yes, Alex’s letter was all true and then some. Yes you did abuse us. Don’t re-write history.” Geoff was then summarily cut out and cast out of the family…for being truthful. My mom won’t speak to him…won’t return a call or an email. Geoff has done nothing wrong…other than not lie and cover for them. He is a victim of abuse…to this day. Geoff corroborates the abuse and has been interviewed by Detective Bill Diltz of the VPD. Geoff has been through much counseling to deal with the abuse…and has struggled with its many effects…as I and Paul have.